As i was scrolling through facebook, i found a post shared by one of my friend which has caught my interest.
Cheah (2014) believed that society and well intentioned people can screw a person up. That the expectations and demands of others can actually stunt your growth and inhibit your talent. Just because everyone does it. How apt the proverb "The road to Hell is paved with good intentions". It's just a paragraph out of what was written on his wall. I just couldn't agree more with this fellow.
After all these years studying things that i have no interest on, i realised and understood what he meant. Yes, people like teachers and parents do have good intention for their children and students, but to some extent, is it right to enroll the children to what THEY want the children TO BE? And expectations from the society has pushed the teachers and parents hard. It might sounds good to some, but, each and every individual has different personality and traits. So their potential. Who's studying now? Who is going to work in the future? Is it you or the young gens? Let the children decide for themselves.
And when i say 'children', i meant those who're taking SPM. UPSR students, please don't feel like you're big enough to decide. But you do have the right to choose. You might not be able to choose wisely, but you can discuss it with your parents. If they insist you to follow them, then, just go with the flow. You're still too young to know what's ahead. And it's not like the end of the world, yet.
Meanwhile, for the future, teachers could suggest, but they never really know their students. Not all of them, especially in a short while. I am saying this because from my previous experience, even my class teacher during high school years changed every year. I'm still in the same class. Only a few subject teachers remained teaching for Form 4 and 5. But even they could not remember my name. Even during practicum, i could barely remember the students' name. Only the cheeky ones and those who stood out academically. Quite a shame but that's because i have 76 students' name that i had to remember in 3 months. On top of that, i had to know their background and remember who are weak and strong academically so that i can make a suitable lesson plan for them. But in 3 months? I could never really know them. My point here is, teachers could suggest a few things which are good for their students to enroll in the future, either from primary to secondary or from lower secondary to high secondary. But parents should never believe more than 70% on that. This is because the one who lived together with the children is the parent, not the teacher. So, that's why i said teacher could only suggest. But decision is not made by the teacher.
For the parents, they might be able to know their children's true potential, but, because of the expectations from the society, sometimes they tend to make the wrong decision. What is actually the best? The best depends on one own self. If you want to make it the best, you need to have an interest on it. Because with interest, you have passion in it. With passion, you work hard. When you work hard, the chance for success is big. Well, it depends on your luck as well. But as long as the passion is there, one should never and will not stop.
Cheah (2014) believed that society and well intentioned people can screw a person up. That the expectations and demands of others can actually stunt your growth and inhibit your talent. Just because everyone does it. How apt the proverb "The road to Hell is paved with good intentions". It's just a paragraph out of what was written on his wall. I just couldn't agree more with this fellow.
After all these years studying things that i have no interest on, i realised and understood what he meant. Yes, people like teachers and parents do have good intention for their children and students, but to some extent, is it right to enroll the children to what THEY want the children TO BE? And expectations from the society has pushed the teachers and parents hard. It might sounds good to some, but, each and every individual has different personality and traits. So their potential. Who's studying now? Who is going to work in the future? Is it you or the young gens? Let the children decide for themselves.
And when i say 'children', i meant those who're taking SPM. UPSR students, please don't feel like you're big enough to decide. But you do have the right to choose. You might not be able to choose wisely, but you can discuss it with your parents. If they insist you to follow them, then, just go with the flow. You're still too young to know what's ahead. And it's not like the end of the world, yet.
Meanwhile, for the future, teachers could suggest, but they never really know their students. Not all of them, especially in a short while. I am saying this because from my previous experience, even my class teacher during high school years changed every year. I'm still in the same class. Only a few subject teachers remained teaching for Form 4 and 5. But even they could not remember my name. Even during practicum, i could barely remember the students' name. Only the cheeky ones and those who stood out academically. Quite a shame but that's because i have 76 students' name that i had to remember in 3 months. On top of that, i had to know their background and remember who are weak and strong academically so that i can make a suitable lesson plan for them. But in 3 months? I could never really know them. My point here is, teachers could suggest a few things which are good for their students to enroll in the future, either from primary to secondary or from lower secondary to high secondary. But parents should never believe more than 70% on that. This is because the one who lived together with the children is the parent, not the teacher. So, that's why i said teacher could only suggest. But decision is not made by the teacher.
For the parents, they might be able to know their children's true potential, but, because of the expectations from the society, sometimes they tend to make the wrong decision. What is actually the best? The best depends on one own self. If you want to make it the best, you need to have an interest on it. Because with interest, you have passion in it. With passion, you work hard. When you work hard, the chance for success is big. Well, it depends on your luck as well. But as long as the passion is there, one should never and will not stop.
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